Today I am so present to how important it is to ask questions and how easily we can go into conclusion when we don’t.
One of the gifts of the friendships I have experienced so far is all the new realities I get exposed to as I get to explore who each person is. And as I have evolved so have the people that come into my life. Some appear for a reason or season, others for a lifetime, and to me, it’s always fun to explore when there’s a mutual interest until it’s not.
I currently have a new friend in my life that is really having me step up my game and communicate more clearly. In this friendship, I’m learning how I need to ask more questions about possible choices and actions that I take for granted and not make any assumptions where I would have in the past. It’s an interesting co-creation with both beings choosing to be in each others lives moment by moment, communicating, taking action(s), or not. Exploring what works, what our needs are and giving each the space to be in their pace. And what we choose to share, say, be, do or not? It’s all a choice, it all creates something – pretty simple huh?
And how interesting it is when old deal breakers appear and you find yourself no longer getting hooked and instead get a new awareness? So lets say that you have a conversation that presents a possibility of getting together after an event, and that the conversation is left hanging with the assumption that the person extending the invitation will communicate when said event is over and doesn’t, what happens in your world? Do you go on with whatever you were doing without skipping a beat or do you wait for the other person to get back to you before choosing something different? Or do you go into “drama” mode?
My epiphany in this case was the importance of asking the questions that I hadn’t like “will you get back to me by xx?”. Prior to this, I would’ve never thought to ask that question, I would’ve made the assumption that the person would of course call or text me either way. So now I have that awareness and can remember to ask these types of questions moving forward, how cool is that? Have you experienced people who say “I’ll call you later today” and then don’t? Do you make a conclusion about that? Is that not just being reactive to someone else’s choices? So what can you choose instead, for you?
I tend to go with the flow for the most part and have learned that true friendships that continue to flourish are pretty effortless as both parties continuously choose to play together, are flexible and provide space for one another to be who they choose to be. You find a communication frequency that work for both parties while not being attached to who stays and who doesn’t and simply enjoy each interaction for what it is. Being grateful for the people and experiences, no matter what.
The cool thing with asking questions and following the energy of what is light to you is that it doesn’t matter what other people think, you make choices that are empowering for you, and when it’s no longer light you choose something different. To have this new friend in my life is very expansive for me in this moment, and yes it’s not showing up as I “may have expected it to”. And that is one of the fun aspects of allowing the energy of what’s true for me to guide me instead of all the so called logic and should’s in this world that I’ve found are most often other people’s POV’s!
Do you ask questions when communicating with people or do you make assumptions? What is the gift in new and old friendships for you? What has you choose more of the people in your life? What if what someone chooses one day does not mean that they will choose that again? Would that work for you? Would you be willing to live so outside the box of this reality that no matter what “other people think” you will still choose what’s true for you? After all, they are not you, so what can you choose for you right now that creates more […] in your world?