10 Ideas to Get out of Overwhelm

10 Ideas to Get out of Overwhelm

When you’re stressing out it’s so easy to procrastinate and take action on everything but that one thing you need to. In other words, you sabotage yourself. When you’re not hitting your numbers and can’t seem to close the prospects on your list rather than listen to the mind chatter that beats you down take a break for a minute, an hour, a day, to regroup and shift your focus.
 

Before you take your break, take a moment and write down everything that’s on your mind. The to do’s, the questions, the worries, fears, write it all down until your mind silences. Trust that it’ll all be taken care of and allow yourself a timeout to do one of the suggestions below or one of your own choice.

 
Now, pick one activity that is listed below that pops for you:

1. Breathe

Find a space where you can be left alone for 2 minutes or more. Take at least 5 deep breaths from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. CLICK HERE to listen to a guided 2 minute breathe audio if you need help.

2. Go outside

Being in nature calm us down, especially when we live in big cities with lots of people. So, go to the closest park, forest, beach, lake and spend some time just taking in the beauty of nature; the flowers, trees, birds, wild animals, … listen to the sounds, take in the colors and surroundings… people watching can be fun too.

3. Move

Your body: go for a walk, go to the gym or work out at home, take your dog out, … there’s nothing like getting the sweat flowing and feel good endorphins flowing in your body.

4. Call a trusted friend

…or a co-worker… in this era of texting and emailing it’s easy to get isolated. You need a people fix now and then and connect in person with another human being. If all else fails, go to the nearest coffee shop and see who you can talk to.

5. Google

Look up funny videos that make you laugh. Humor is personal so use your imagination. Here’s a couple of classics that get me going:

Bob Newhart – Stop it

Terry Tate Office Linebacker

Now go find some that make you laugh.

6. Play music

There’s something for everyone. While you’re at it create a feel good play list that you add to over time. Pick songs that energize you, and if you have an instrument play it!

7. Get a massage

… or some type of bodywork like an energy session, there are many to choose from, try something new. Let your mind disconnect and your body relax.

8. Meditate

Google guided meditations online if you don’t already have a practice.

9. See a movie

Go to the movies and see something that inspires and appears to be fun to you right now. It can be a kick ass action movie, a comedy, whatever strikes your mood. There’s always Netflix and other streaming services – binge alert 

10. Read a book

… or listen to a podcast that inspires you.

Once you’re done, revisit that list you wrote down, take a piece of paper or open a document on your laptop/tablet and draw four columns.

Place each item into one of five columns.

TODAY

Pick the order that feels most fun.  

What is the item that pops when you look at your list?

Start there and pick one at the time.

This week

Sort in order of importance and once again, pick the one that you feel drawn to first.

Kick resistance out of the door by starting with the fun stuff.

1-3 months

Do you need to do this task or does it belong on a wish list for a rainy day? If so, add another document.

Delegate

Who would be happy to help and also great at what this task is? Who in your community stands out? There’s nothing like delegating to people that take joy in what they do, especially when it’s not something you’re good at or simply don’t have the time to do.

Disregard

Go through this list one by one and ask “

Next, look at the items you need to get done today and pick one of them that pops. Then the next.

 Try it and let me know how it goes!

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Your story: 3 simple ways to finally create it.

Your story: 3 simple ways to finally create it.

When someone asks, “What’s your story?” You blank out. At least I did.

It had me twisted for years after excavating every cell of my body and still not being clear on the missing piece.

The problem was that I was focusing on the missing piece. I was trying hard to get clear.

My old story: I didn’t have one to tell.

And while knowing that we ALL have our unique story to tell I just couldn’t identify what mine was. And that’s part of the puzzle.

It’s so easy to get in your head about a question like that and make it more significant than it needs to be. I was trying to identify that last piece and just couldn’t. And then it hit me, just last month (no kidding):

 

If life is a story that you create why not create a story that fulfills all of your dreams and desires?

 

Think about this. You may already be doing this in every area of your life, and if so – congratulations! You focus on your dreams yet find they’re still no closer to being fulfilled today. Why is that?

Maybe you know that it’s all about your attitude and the energy attached to that energy. Then there’s what you believe in your conscious vs. subconscious mind… and that is where I identified the glitch.

Have you ever noticed the energy that hits you in the face when scrolling down the newsfeed on social media?

All the posts competing for your attention as you scroll down the newsfeed? Ads, opinions, puppy videos. It’s so easy to get caught up in other people’s realities and stories and then forget to ask yourself what story you wish to create for yourself.

Once that awareness hits, you still may have a story or two that limits your success that you can’t find the words for or act on. Perhaps you’re not building your business because you can’t figure out your story.

It’s so easy to go on autopilot even when you have good intentions. Some, like me, go with the flow and follow the energy and then there are structured plans and to do lists which works for some, and not for others. No matter what mix you need it starts with asking questions.

 

Here are 3 ideas to get unstuck:

#1 Shift your focus – the things you think about. Instead of focusing on the problem, focus on the end result. Easy right? When you feel great it’s a given, and when you don’t there may be a gap between what you know, how you feel, and taking action.

Ask yourself how you can serve YOU today before everyone else. What do you NEED to stay happy throughout the day? A workout? A chat with a buddy? A game of golf? Shoot hoops? Meditation? Some time with your partner?

 

#2 What IS the story you would like to create for your life? What are the successes you wish to achieve? Small or big? What would energize you to get up in the morning and honor you AND those around you to the best of your ability?

 

#3 What, if any, are the beliefs that are stopping you? Now, instead of focusing on the problems, simply write them down, identify the opposite belief and ask yourself, “how you can create more of that today?”

 

There are many tools and processes out there that can help, and many coaches that can help you with your specific needs depending on what that is. In sports it’s a given to have a coach, why not in business and life?

 

Here are some resources to explore:

Soar® – Here you can find CliftonStrengths® coaches and other coaches – your one-stop shop!

Gallup® Strengths Center – CliftonStrengths® – a shortcut to really get in tune with what’s important to you. The assessment identifies your hardwired perspectives and talents and with that, your needs.

One Command® – I found this simple process in recent months, it’s super easy to shift your mindset in a few minutes.

Access Consciousness® – The power of learning to ask questions, clearing whatever has you stuck and upping your awareness in the process.

Are you looking for productivity apps that will free up your time?

Are you looking for productivity apps that will free up your time?

In recent months I’ve been recommended some really cool free sites that will make any business owner a happy camper.

 

EMAIL OVERWHELM?
Are you like me in that you get way too many emails? Adding to that you may have multiple emails and that’s when it’s easy to get to miss the emails that matter. What to do? Get this free app UNROLL ME and start breathing. You have the option to select what emails you receive directly to your inbox and which ones you wish to include in the daily digest, and you can adjust that any time. In my case, I now get 1 email per day instead of the 50+ and with that a peace of mind (thank you Jacq for this one).

 

ONLINE IMAGE SIZE OPTIMIZATION
Do you work with online images and struggle with sizing them correctly? Trick #1 is to make the image double the size of what the recommended field is, for example, the image box is 100×100 px, you make the image 200×200 with a 72dpi resolution and now have an image that will be crisp and clear on retina screens.

I recently learned that the ideal image size for online images is really 100-300 kb, using the trick above there is one more step you can take to minimize the image without losing quality. Go to KRAKEN and try their free service (for images smaller than 1 MB), drag and drop your images and see them shrink as much as possible without losing quality. This is a really cool app.

And if you’re looking for royalty-free and free images and haven’t heard of UNSPLASH you’re in for a treat. I’ve used images from this site for a couple of years when I don’t have the images myself. Amazing pictures are shared on all kinds of topics. Check it out.

After taking the above steps to optimize my images my website loads much faster and with that more people hopefully stay on the site and browse it, instead of clicking on to the next. As many of you know we have 6-10 seconds (max) to make a first impression online so load times count!

 

SOCIAL MEDIA BLOG POSTS
Do you blog and want to be more visible on social media but simply never get to it? If so, check out MISSINGLTR. What’s so cool with this program is that they pull quotes from your post and create a campaign that is spread out throughout the year. No more trying to figure out that you don’t replicate your posts. There’s a free version that offers two campaigns on one platform and paid options for more campaigns and social media platforms.

 

Do you have some fun apps to share that save time and increase your productivity? Then please share below in the comments section.

 

Have an awesome day!

What are you focusing on?

What are you focusing on?

Are you focusing on what makes you feel great or do you focus on circumstances that are not? Are you using the talents that come easy for you and take actions aligned with that? What if life could be created with ease by simply focusing on what makes you feel great?

For example, you have an employee that is not performing, what do you do? Has the reason for the lack of performance been identified? Do you need to? What would the action of investing or firing that person create? What would happen with the team involved if the person stays vs. leaves? Would you hire someone new? What actions would you take to ensure that you don’t hire someone with a similar profile yet looking completely different?

These are issues we all deal with on a daily basis and how we deal with it ultimately sends signals of expectations that may not have been communicated clearly. Now before taking any actions, consider looking at what is working vs. not working with this person or team? Do they have all the tools they need to perform? Are they qualified? Do they have the drive and a willingness to perform? Are they happy? Is their manager set up to lead and inspire them?

There are many options to consider before taking the actions and if firing is the consideration maybe address the issues first so that you’re clear on what you are looking for in an ideal hire vs. what doesn’t work. When the person/team gets fired have a clear action plan on what the profiles are of the people you need, and then, and this is key, focus on what you desire to create. Often it’s easy to get stuck in talking about what didn’t work in the past and with that creating more of the same.

My experience has been that just like with relationships we tend to wait way longer than what’s healthy before taking action. As a leader, I’m sure you’ve experienced the impact on a workplace and team when you wait too long. As with many things in life, it’s about finding a balance that works for you, and your team. Maybe have conversations with the people involved asking them what the enjoy with their current job, what they would do if they could have any position in the company or outside of it and what they think needs to be done to address current issues. Just having the conversation will open up and shift things and will also help you get clear on what the issue is. It’s not always with the non-performer or the vocal ones. Listen to them and see if you can find a common thread in their stories.

It’s really easy to do and yet so easy to forget. If we desire to create a work environment that is creative, good feeling, where people are inspired, where work occurs as fun and play while producing beyond the expected outcome then start looking at what an ideal work environment would look like.

Many years ago I read “The Emyth [Revisited]” by Michael Gerber. There’s a lot of goodies in that book on creating the key positions and foundational structures before you even hire people. It has helpful tools even if you’re further ahead in your business endeavor. That book and others helped me see the importance of planning for future positions before you have the need and become too busy to think clearly about what you need or are willing to delegate.

The fun with starting up a business and wearing many or all hats is the freedom it creates when you get to expand and hire people that help you take your business to the next level. Getting you one step closer to actualizing your vision and why you started your business in the first place.

 

WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING/BUILDING?

A quick way to get your “what you do” response is to listen to this 10-minute video. Another great read is the book “Find Your Why” by Simon Sinek (especially if you have this nagging feeling that something is missing that you can’t verbalize as to “why” you do what you do). In addition, there’s the CliftonStrengths® assessment that addresses the “how” you approach anything. I found that after reading and doing the exercises in “Find Your Why” that my “why” and the needs of my Dominant Signature Talent Themes where all aligned. Things like that excite me, connecting the dots and seeing similarities in different teachings (my #1 theme is Strategic®). It validates what I know to be true for me. In addition, Gallup offers a great assessment called The Builders Profile (BP10™) where you & your team can see where your talents lay as business builders.

Knowing what drives you is so important as when you’re not happy it’s often connected to not honoring what you need to fill you up. And when you are filled up, your perspective shifts and you see things in a different light. You may choose to take immediate actions instead of letting it linger, or find a different solution from an empowered context.

When you feel good, and focus on making decisions that bring more of that, big changes happen. Yes, it may sound too good to be true, but try it, play full out, one day at the time, for a week or two and keep notes on how you experience each day, what you see shifting in your life if you focus on what makes you feel great and what is working in everything you do and let me know what changes.