Creating a Career Autobiography

Creating a Career Autobiography

Definition of career

: a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken as a permanent calling

: a field for or pursuit of consecutive progressive achievement especially in public, professional, or business life

Two weeks ago I spoke about 3 steps to creating your autobiography, this week I have suggestions for creating your career autobiography.

Our personal life is affected by our business life and sometimes the lines get blurry. When you’re in careers and professions like sales it’s easy for work to take over when you’re a high-achiever and enjoy what you’re doing. 

Apart from writing and later updating your resume, do you sit down and reflect on what you’ve created to date in the area of business?

What achievements are you most proud of and what about them makes them special?  

What if you listed all the jobs that you’ve had that you can remember from your childhood to date. List what your experience was, what you learned from it and if it influenced you to embark on your current career path?

Next, look at your strengths, both BP10™ and CliftonStrengths®. How many of your talents/strengths were used in each of these jobs?

I was talking to someone about this recently and was reminded of sales jobs I had as a kid that I had totally forgotten about. My dream, however, was to be an interior designer. That is until ended up in the hospital at 14, had a nurse that impressed me so much that I chose to become a nurse instead. I did a 180 from a hospital stay.

Now that doesn’t mean that I gave up an interior design, in fact, I’ve been practicing as I’ve moved around the world and lived in many places, the only difference is that it just didn’t end up being my chosen profession.

Is it important to you to climb the ladder and have the title or do you just love carrying the bag and interacting with people while selling them your product?

Many people get so focused on titles that they stop looking at how their current job contributes to their life and what becoming a manager, VP or CEO would mean to their life.

I’ve seen many great salespeople become managers and fail miserably. Not everyone is wired to be a manager just because they’re successful in sales. There are pros and cons with all careers and finding what’s a fit for you is the only thing that is really important. 

What does success look like for you?

That’s one of the first questions to look at, especially when you start feeling like you’re losing your mojo. What makes you happy and what doesn’t?

There’s a lot of freedom when you’re in sales as long as you perform and serve your clients well.

Doing what comes naturally to you is important and you also need to make money to live. There are so many different types of sales positions, sometimes shifting to another product with a different sales cycle or a different corporate culture makes all the difference. 

Assessments

What I love about assessments is that they help you identify talents that you may not have thought about marketing or investing in.

When you hear the same message said in different ways it’s sometimes easier to take that in. BP10™, DISC, Kolbe-A are some of the assessments I enjoyed taking from a business perspective. They give you a language to express the uniqueness of what you bring and added to that you have CliftonStrengths® that adds your “how” as a person and the “How to Fascinate” assessment that measures how others see you which I’ve found so far mirrors your strengths.

It takes a team using all their talents to successfully build, sustain and grow a thriving business.

What talents and strengths does your team excel in?

Hypnosis – What’s the Big Deal?

Hypnosis – What’s the Big Deal?

Many people are familiar with hypnosis from watching some sort of stage hypnosis show where people are doing all kinds of silly stuff, I’m not talking about that. There are many facets to hypnosis as well as teachings.

I like to describe hypnosis as a guided meditation. You have full choice whether you follow the guidance or not and you can hear every word spoken while in this very relaxed state of mind. The scenes you’re guided through often include plenty of room for each individual to envision the dreamscape in a way that works for them. In other words, there’s plenty of room for interpretation as far as what things look like. You get to tap into your memories and apply your ideal scenes which is why it’s so powerful. 

It’s very relaxing

Change happens while you’re in this relaxed state and that is one reason why transformation happens with little effort.

You’re in dialog with your unconscious mind

Think about that. The reasons we fail to hit targets if we are in action are often due to our tendency to sabotage ourselves. Lets say you want to build a fit body which requires consistent actions in the area of movement and food choices. Maybe you follow the plan the first week or month and then you start skipping days and before you know it you’re completely off.

Chris Howard, who I was certified in transformational hypnosis by, gave us this great analogy: 

Think of your conscious mind as the captain of a ship, and the unconscious mind as the crew, who controls the ship?

You might want to say the captain but does the captain do anything else but give the order? So, if the ship doesn’t turn or operate as you desire there’s either a mutiny of sorts happening or the captain not communicating clearly and the crew needing more information.  

Your body works the same way. Just think about all the functions our body takes care of without us even having to think about it. That’s the power of the unconscious mind and that is the part of you that you access when you’re in this relaxed state.

Things change fast

Because you can talk to your your unconscious mind without any judgments there is choice involved. Your body has a desire to help as does the unconscious mind. 

You’re in total control

As mentioned above, you hear everything that is spoken and if you disagree you’ll awaken or question the information. That’s why a hypnosis session includes a chat prior where targets are established so that the guided journey applies to you. 

You’re safe

There is nothing that will be done to you. The hypnotists offers suggestions that you then interpret and either agree with or not. It’s similar to reading a book or watching a movie, how we experience the story and journey is individual. 

Now why is this all important? Ultimately, your well-being is at stake when you don’t listen to or communicate with your body. The signals may be subtle until they’re not and symptoms or dis-ease shows up. The same goes with dreams and targets, forgotten or not, hypnosis makes it easier to access what that looks like for you.

Bottomline is, why not establish a line of communication that is focused on what you desire to create and then go from there?

For more information on hypnosis look no further than the Mayo Clinic. 

3 Steps to Creating Your Autobiography

3 Steps to Creating Your Autobiography

Transformation: an act, process, or instance of transforming or being transformed.

When you look at the transformation from a story perspective looking back at your life and the journey you’ve had to date it’s been quite the movie, hasn’t it? It’s so easy to focus on what’s ahead without acknowledging what came before.

Transformation is powerful. You can shift your experience of the past and create a future that you were not seeing as possible an hour or day prior. 

Imagine looking back at your life as an observer, remembering life events, making notes and then as you get to present time taking a look at this from an adult’s perspective and see what the story of your life so far has been about.

Creating your autobiography

Years ago, I participated in a course where we all created an autobiography. It was a powerful exercise and true gift that I’ll always be grateful for. I remember thinking how wonderful it would be if every person on this planet would create their version, it’s such a gift.

Collecting images, looking at conversations, people and events, while weaving our life story together. It could be a collage of images for every year, words, you get to create it in the way you want to, it’s your story after all.

One of the things I, and many with me, got from this experience was that we have a choice in how we share our story, no matter how traumatic the events were at the time. When you take the time to review and get present to your own story, making peace with the experiences, it opens up the door to new possibilities, choices, and actions.

Life is a movie

What if you were to create your life as one of your favorite movies? The plotlines of most stories will include the hero – You, who starts out with a story and a set of circumstances. Next, something happens, villains may appear, and you’re forced to take action if you want to live. Along the way, your own personal Yoda(s) may appear, or there will be challenges continually thrown your way that forces you to step up and take action until the threat has been eliminated. The hero is a different person at the end of the story, often wiser from the experiences and no longer apologizing for who they are.

Much like your own life. What happened to you growing up will stay with you, and depending on the nature of your story, some are great where they are, others are better off transforming into a story where you get to be your own everyday hero.

Have you ever looked at why you’re drawn to the movies you watch, or what you get to experience through them? And why there are other movies that you would never think of seeing?

Your turn

Here are some ideas for an outline you could use if creating your own autobiography sounds fun.

STEP 1

Grab a bunch of papers or create a new document. Number each page from 0 to your current age.

  • PEOPLE: Write down the people that were in your life at that time (parents, family, friends, foes, classmates, teammates, neighbors, etc. List the names.)
  • IMAGES: Add pictures from your life or google images that represent you and the people in your life if there are none. Unsplash is a great site where you can download free and royalty-free images
  • PERSONAL EVENTS: What were the events that happened in your life during that year – good or bad?
  • WORLD EVENTS: What big events happened in the world at that time?
  • EXPERIENCE: How do you remember feeling that year, about yourself and about others? Happy, loved, safe, sad, angry, helpless, abandoned, scared, lonely, …
  • NEW STORY: Leave blank for now

 

STEP2

  • REVIEW: Now that you’ve created your life story what do you get present to? Who are you? How would you describe this person?
  • INSIGHTS: What did you learn about life this year? What choices are you making as a result of this event? What beliefs did you form about yourself and others?
  • NEW STORY: Looking at where you are today, as an adult, how can you recreate your story in a way that empowers you? Go through each year and add an empowering statement

 

STEP 3

Just like the hero in a movie you now get to choose how you want your story to play out from this day forward. What is the happy-ever-after story you want to experience? You may have heard the proverb “If there’s a will there’s a way”, in other words, anything is possible if you set the intention and take the actions necessary to create it.

  • YOUR NEW NARRATIVE: Who are you now as a result of the life you’ve lived to date? If you were to describe yourself as a character what would that look like?
  • YOUR VISION, what do you want to share with the world? It could be power words, a collage of images, or simply taking 5 minutes a day to tune within and connecting with your hero self and see what guidance you get from within.

 

How’s Your Heart, Really?

How’s Your Heart, Really?

I recently attended an intro seminar followed by a 1:1 coaching session with the creator of “How’s Your Heart and the “To-story-forth™” process — Boise Thomas. While I’ve known him for many years, how he shows up now is more powerful and focused than I’ve ever seen him before, and this is a guy who has been playing a big game for many years.

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is?

Many of us have thought about that and sometimes gotten stuck in our heads not knowing or being able to identify what that purpose is, this process helps you identify what this is for you. 

In this process that Boise created, he takes you through a series of questions related to select life events that create your personal blueprint aka matrix. 

It covers your wakeup calls, triggers, insights as well as the action items for you for each of them and what you’re here to share with the world as a result of this. You get your master key which includes your overarching message to share with the world. Mine happens to be that life flows easily when we get out of our own way.

This blueprint is something you can use as a guide in any area of life, it becomes a kind of a checklist to quickly identify where your energy or emotional state is at so that you can stay focused on your targets and have personalized action steps for you when you get off track.

What stories are you currently sharing with the world?

Every person’s story is unique. I really got present to all the stories I still was sharing after many years of transformational work, the disappointments, and conclusions I had created as a result, how they were still there and the gifts that came from the experiences. 

When you’re on a continual growth path there are always more insights and growth available life is constantly changing. Change starts with awareness, without that you can’t make changes no matter how much you want to. I have a lot of stories to tell and do, and some that I’m telling myself and others need to get a bit of a rewrite as they no longer serve me. 

I was also reminded of how when you’re in any sort of funk or transition in life where you’re not operating at your best you’re simply present to that frequency gap. Your instinct would often be to simply power through and create whatever your normal mode is but inside you there’s a sense of feeling stuck or missing a point that you can shake. That is another thing I got out of that session. 

Losing your mojo

When you lose your mojo for whatever reason there are feelings, energies to address or simply awarenesses waiting to pop so that you can unhook yourself from that funk and take action.

When you’re at the bottom of this frequency list yet pretending to yourself and others that you aren’t there’s a gap created that others can sense too. Most importantly you. It could be a temporary issue in one area of life, or when life appears to collapse into a mess that you don’t know how to get yourself out of. The image below is a great one to help identify this and the good news is when you’ve identified what the trigger is, you’re able to turn things around and reclaim your mojo.

Artwork created by Boise Thomas and published by his permission

Energy is a funny thing, depending on the community you’re in, it is talked about or not, yet something we all pick up when interacting with people whether in person, via text, email, etc. When you lose your mojo that gap between your rock star self is simply just that, a gap, asking questions, looking at your personal blueprint and yes, of course, applying your strengths in every area helps you get your mojo back.

Mojo is flow mode

When your mojo is on, life flows with ease and everyone who gets to interact with you gets to experience the gift of you and your true energy. People will listen to you in a different way. You’re aligned. You’re heard. You’re seen. You’re understood.

Spoken words either enhance how you’re perceived or not. The words you chose, tone, vibe, mood, is all about energy, and the story you’re telling others even when you’re not aware of what that actually is.

I recommend this process to anyone feeling a disconnect, loss of mojo or simply on a purpose quest, to connect with Boise and see if you’re a fit.

Boise is a powerful storyteller, coach, guide, in addition to many other talents. He’s someone you can safely trust with your stories and know that he has your best interests in mind. He also has a book awaiting publication in January 2020.

CLICK HERE to find out more about the To-story-forth™ process.

Change – Do You Resist or Go With the Flow?

Change – Do You Resist or Go With the Flow?

Change is a funny thing. Some people think that things will not change, when in fact, things are always changing around us, affecting us a little or a lot. We live on a planet after all. Sometimes it hits close, it may not even be you initiating the change but because of that person being affected, it also affects you.

Okay, that might sound a bit cryptic, so let me explain. Let’s say that someone that you’re working closely with all of a sudden leaves, will your reality change too or stay the same? In a split second, a choice that someone else makes affects you and your reality, let’s say a co-worker or boss.

Impact

Now, if you’re anything like me you will look at the impact it will have on the business, the big picture, short and long-term. And depending on the role said person has in your business, the impact will vary. And yes, the business often survives even if the brand changes (take Steve Jobs vs. Tim Cook as an example).

Both bring different skills, talents, and brilliance to the table yet completely different energy and strategies. Is one better than the other? Not necessarily, but each bring a different set of SWOT’s. (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats).

Who said person is, will of course matter. What their unique set of skills are, independent of the position they hold. We are all replaceable, and some, however, are more missed than others for reasons way beyond skills.

How do you make others feel?

How you make people feel is after all often how we are remembered. Either way, that one action, one person leaving, will create change.

I’ve often been the one picking up the pieces, being the last person to leave, in my area of expertise and I’ve grown a lot from it. It had me look at “why did they pick me?” early on in life. Sometimes it’s as simple as people being able to trust that you’ll make it happen and get things done. Not because you know everything. Rather, you’re willing to figure it out.

As I’ve gotten older and have been able to flip that and delegate tasks I don’t like doing to others that love it. I’ve seen not only “why” but also the joy and engagement it brings to those individuals when they’re able to grow in areas where they have natural talents.

How do you respond to change?

What do you do in situations like this when someone close to you, it could be a coworker, a consultant, your partner, all of a sudden leaves, or simply doesn’t show up one day? Independent on why that is, what would you do? Would you hightail out there too? Would you stay? Would you take on the extra load? Would you process? Move on? Or would you stay long enough to just create something else, something different?

When I look at how technology has evolved during my lifetime, it’s incredible how much change there has been and how that has affected us all, good and bad.

I grew up in a time era when there wasn’t even answering machines available until I was around 18, calculators were not allowed in school, it was considered cheating during tests, and the Internet and mobile phones became available in my late 20s and early 30s.

We are more connected than ever, yet, many feel more lonely than ever too

With technology, it has become easy to hide and not leave your home. Connecting with others is becoming more important than ever, and not just online.

Meeting people in person fills an important emotional need for many people and develops social skills.

We all need communities, more now than ever. What we can create when we are with like-minded people is golden, on or offline, and when big changes happen, it’s great to have someone to talk to, isn’t it?