3 Steps to Creating Your Autobiography

3 Steps to Creating Your Autobiography

Transformation: an act, process, or instance of transforming or being transformed.

When you look at the transformation from a story perspective looking back at your life and the journey you’ve had to date it’s been quite the movie, hasn’t it? It’s so easy to focus on what’s ahead without acknowledging what came before.

Transformation is powerful. You can shift your experience of the past and create a future that you were not seeing as possible an hour or day prior. 

Imagine looking back at your life as an observer, remembering life events, making notes and then as you get to present time taking a look at this from an adult’s perspective and see what the story of your life so far has been about.

Creating your autobiography

Years ago, I participated in a course where we all created an autobiography. It was a powerful exercise and true gift that I’ll always be grateful for. I remember thinking how wonderful it would be if every person on this planet would create their version, it’s such a gift.

Collecting images, looking at conversations, people and events, while weaving our life story together. It could be a collage of images for every year, words, you get to create it in the way you want to, it’s your story after all.

One of the things I, and many with me, got from this experience was that we have a choice in how we share our story, no matter how traumatic the events were at the time. When you take the time to review and get present to your own story, making peace with the experiences, it opens up the door to new possibilities, choices, and actions.

Life is a movie

What if you were to create your life as one of your favorite movies? The plotlines of most stories will include the hero – You, who starts out with a story and a set of circumstances. Next, something happens, villains may appear, and you’re forced to take action if you want to live. Along the way, your own personal Yoda(s) may appear, or there will be challenges continually thrown your way that forces you to step up and take action until the threat has been eliminated. The hero is a different person at the end of the story, often wiser from the experiences and no longer apologizing for who they are.

Much like your own life. What happened to you growing up will stay with you, and depending on the nature of your story, some are great where they are, others are better off transforming into a story where you get to be your own everyday hero.

Have you ever looked at why you’re drawn to the movies you watch, or what you get to experience through them? And why there are other movies that you would never think of seeing?

Your turn

Here are some ideas for an outline you could use if creating your own autobiography sounds fun.

STEP 1

Grab a bunch of papers or create a new document. Number each page from 0 to your current age.

  • PEOPLE: Write down the people that were in your life at that time (parents, family, friends, foes, classmates, teammates, neighbors, etc. List the names.)
  • IMAGES: Add pictures from your life or google images that represent you and the people in your life if there are none. Unsplash is a great site where you can download free and royalty-free images
  • PERSONAL EVENTS: What were the events that happened in your life during that year – good or bad?
  • WORLD EVENTS: What big events happened in the world at that time?
  • EXPERIENCE: How do you remember feeling that year, about yourself and about others? Happy, loved, safe, sad, angry, helpless, abandoned, scared, lonely, …
  • NEW STORY: Leave blank for now

 

STEP2

  • REVIEW: Now that you’ve created your life story what do you get present to? Who are you? How would you describe this person?
  • INSIGHTS: What did you learn about life this year? What choices are you making as a result of this event? What beliefs did you form about yourself and others?
  • NEW STORY: Looking at where you are today, as an adult, how can you recreate your story in a way that empowers you? Go through each year and add an empowering statement

 

STEP 3

Just like the hero in a movie you now get to choose how you want your story to play out from this day forward. What is the happy-ever-after story you want to experience? You may have heard the proverb “If there’s a will there’s a way”, in other words, anything is possible if you set the intention and take the actions necessary to create it.

  • YOUR NEW NARRATIVE: Who are you now as a result of the life you’ve lived to date? If you were to describe yourself as a character what would that look like?
  • YOUR VISION, what do you want to share with the world? It could be power words, a collage of images, or simply taking 5 minutes a day to tune within and connecting with your hero self and see what guidance you get from within.

 

How’s Your Heart, Really?

How’s Your Heart, Really?

I recently attended an intro seminar followed by a 1:1 coaching session with the creator of “How’s Your Heart and the “To-story-forth™” process — Boise Thomas. While I’ve known him for many years, how he shows up now is more powerful and focused than I’ve ever seen him before, and this is a guy who has been playing a big game for many years.

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is?

Many of us have thought about that and sometimes gotten stuck in our heads not knowing or being able to identify what that purpose is, this process helps you identify what this is for you. 

In this process that Boise created, he takes you through a series of questions related to select life events that create your personal blueprint aka matrix. 

It covers your wakeup calls, triggers, insights as well as the action items for you for each of them and what you’re here to share with the world as a result of this. You get your master key which includes your overarching message to share with the world. Mine happens to be that life flows easily when we get out of our own way.

This blueprint is something you can use as a guide in any area of life, it becomes a kind of a checklist to quickly identify where your energy or emotional state is at so that you can stay focused on your targets and have personalized action steps for you when you get off track.

What stories are you currently sharing with the world?

Every person’s story is unique. I really got present to all the stories I still was sharing after many years of transformational work, the disappointments, and conclusions I had created as a result, how they were still there and the gifts that came from the experiences. 

When you’re on a continual growth path there are always more insights and growth available life is constantly changing. Change starts with awareness, without that you can’t make changes no matter how much you want to. I have a lot of stories to tell and do, and some that I’m telling myself and others need to get a bit of a rewrite as they no longer serve me. 

I was also reminded of how when you’re in any sort of funk or transition in life where you’re not operating at your best you’re simply present to that frequency gap. Your instinct would often be to simply power through and create whatever your normal mode is but inside you there’s a sense of feeling stuck or missing a point that you can shake. That is another thing I got out of that session. 

Losing your mojo

When you lose your mojo for whatever reason there are feelings, energies to address or simply awarenesses waiting to pop so that you can unhook yourself from that funk and take action.

When you’re at the bottom of this frequency list yet pretending to yourself and others that you aren’t there’s a gap created that others can sense too. Most importantly you. It could be a temporary issue in one area of life, or when life appears to collapse into a mess that you don’t know how to get yourself out of. The image below is a great one to help identify this and the good news is when you’ve identified what the trigger is, you’re able to turn things around and reclaim your mojo.

Artwork created by Boise Thomas and published by his permission

Energy is a funny thing, depending on the community you’re in, it is talked about or not, yet something we all pick up when interacting with people whether in person, via text, email, etc. When you lose your mojo that gap between your rock star self is simply just that, a gap, asking questions, looking at your personal blueprint and yes, of course, applying your strengths in every area helps you get your mojo back.

Mojo is flow mode

When your mojo is on, life flows with ease and everyone who gets to interact with you gets to experience the gift of you and your true energy. People will listen to you in a different way. You’re aligned. You’re heard. You’re seen. You’re understood.

Spoken words either enhance how you’re perceived or not. The words you chose, tone, vibe, mood, is all about energy, and the story you’re telling others even when you’re not aware of what that actually is.

I recommend this process to anyone feeling a disconnect, loss of mojo or simply on a purpose quest, to connect with Boise and see if you’re a fit.

Boise is a powerful storyteller, coach, guide, in addition to many other talents. He’s someone you can safely trust with your stories and know that he has your best interests in mind. He also has a book awaiting publication in January 2020.

CLICK HERE to find out more about the To-story-forth™ process.